Prenuptials will be needed: An analogy of the on going struggle that a country is facing

Marriage is an attempt to solve problems together which you didn't even have when you were on your own. ~ Eddie Cantor

“Honey, we're going to get married.” Jane smiled at the words of a her soon to be husband, John. She loved him dearly, and his life before he met her was a tough one. He once said to her that he was running, she thought it was trouble, he just gave her that winning smile of his, “No dear, I'm running to you. And when we're together, we'll change the world.” 

She thought of his words fondly. But as quickly as the fond memory came, another one came. 

“Jane, baby, I want you to change, I know I'm moving into your place, but look, you have to respect me, I'm your soon to be husband.” 

Respecting his wishes, she gave into his strange requirements. They ranged from, him building a strange building on her front lawn, which made an unearthly racket five times a day, special food that she had to make and buy, and his laws, that one, they still argued about. However, she new sooner or later she would cave.

Howbeit of late, she was having a lot more trouble with John. He was ever increasing getting more assertive around the house. Despite, it being her house. 

Also, of late John said that he would be moving his family in. However, what he failed to tell her was that some of his family members were violent and destructive. When she confronted him about it, he said, "They weren't his family members, and that they weren't his true family members." Carrying on this, he went on to say,"His true family were peaceful and loving family members. 

Staring at him with disbelief, she was shocked at his complete and utter denial of what his “family” members were doing.

Walking into the room, John went to greet his wife to be, “Jane dearest, I have news for you, I'm having friends over and they're going to stay. Some of them may be violent, but you will let them into your home”, grabbing her shoulders roughly, he looked into her eyes and growled, “Because otherwise you won't be loving or tolerant. In fact, you'll be discriminating them if you don't let them in.

After a few more weeks of living like this, Jane decided to leave John. When she left, he screamed that she was intolerant and yelled something that sounded like " your is lama phobic", but she couldn't remember as she was too distressed and didn't understand why John believed her to have a phobia of lamas. At the time she shouted back,”Hell yeah, I'm intolerant to madness.”

When a couple gets married, they merge, in a sense. The habits that they use to have drop away to make way for new ones. While as a bachelor, a man may leave dirty laundry strewn across the floor, such behavior is no longer acceptable when married.

Furthermore, when a country receives immigrants there is a merger. However, a couple/country, need to work together to respect each other. Every relationship is giving and receiving. If one party is to demand for everything and not ask but just demand or never yield to the wishes of others, the marriage will fail. So in the same manner, immigrants must learn to do away with the things they were before. They are a changed people. When they enter into a new country, parts of themselves will stay, but much will change.

In addition, if they are not willing to change, the “marriage" between country and immigrant will immediately fail. The host country must respect the immigrants and the immigrants must learn to realize that they have to embrace and learn to take on the culture of the country.

At the end of the day, if a certain culture is not willing to play ball, how can things ever work out? Furthermore, as mentioned: if all relations are about giving, what happens when the major gift someone gives you, if not the only one after giving everything to them, always goes boom! Blowing in your face,  just like a running event at Boston.