Merely A Feeling

Feelings do not define people, feelings are just feelings. How you feel does not make you who you are, because how you feel changes. On the other hand, you don’t change. The things you may do may change like feelings, but you don’t change. This is why we cannot be defined by how we feel.

If you ask someone how they felt, and they said, "I feel angry", you wouldn’t jump to the conclusion that they were an angry person. If however, they felt angry all the time, you might be able to say that they were an angry person, but just because they felt always angry doesn’t mean that feeling defined them as who they were.

When people are depressed, we say that they are depressed. However, just because they are depressed we do not say they are just depressed and that is what they will be forever and ever. One day, even though how hard life may be for them now, they will and can change how they feel. It may be hard, and they may have felt depressed for a very long time, but they can take control of their emotions. It might not be today or the next few tomorrows. However, they will one day not be what their feelings dictate. 

So if all these people feel this way, and though they may feel that way, they can change. How we feel is not how we will always feel forever. Furthermore, we can change how we feel, we always have a choice despite contrary belief. The only time you will never have a choice is when you give up that choice to something or someone, and even then you can still make the choice to regain your choice back.

So if people feel like a murderer, if they feel straight, if they feel gay, if they feel like a pedophile, just like that angry person or depressed person, the reason we say they are that is because of a feeling. However, as we know, feelings can change. So if you want to tell someone you are born a certain way because you feel that way you, you can, but it won’t be true. It will only be as true as how your emotions are in that moment that you allow to be so.

How you feel, and how you live is entirely up to you, and not your emotions. No one is a slave to their feelings. People are certainly how they are if they choose to go by how they feel in that moment. Yes, that feeling may be very strong, but ultimately, you are master or mistress of your own body, in what you feel and how you feel.

No one is simply just born something, and no one is forced to be something unless they decide to be so, and if they were forced or became something, they can always change. Never doubt that, less you believe a lie, told by yourself or others.