Talk It Over

Sweeping things under the carpet does not solve issues. Nor does having a problem and hoping that by not acknowledging it, that it will be fixed. Similarly, but on a more grander scale, it’s been said that when the talking stops between individuals, is when war begins. If this is all true, shouldn't we talk a little more about that which troubles us?

Problems or issues do not appear out of nowhere. They do not simply occur because they do. There is always a reason when a problem comes into being, unlike the events that people cannot understand so label it as,"happening for a reason."

So keeping that in mind, if there is always a reason for a problem, there is always a solution. It might not be the popular solution, but a solution nonetheless. However, you cannot use the solution if you do not acknowledge it.

When you think about it, the whole idea is counterproductive. If you have a problem that you refuse to talk about, and even when you do talk about the issue, you only mention how horrible it is. That isn't going to solve the problem.

So following on that trail of thought, problems are not solved by suppressing them. That is why when we have issues such as racism, bigotry, or hatred for something. As a society, we don’t want people to say they are no longer so just because they fear the backlash of society. Rather, we want them to say so,because they realize it is wrong.

Otherwise, you just have people doing lip service. Simply because they have to, or suffer social assassination. They are not going to be less of what they are simply because they don’t say say how they feel.

Furthermore, when people are racist or something, they don’t do it with word, but in action. So they can say that racism is horrible, but they can still do it in deed. Just for the simple matter that they are so because they couldn’t talk about an issue that they had because society would instantly view them as a monster.

And as said before, problems are not solved because you stop acknowledging them. No, they get worse when you don’t. If someone is told they cannot do something for no reason or a properly explained, they can get resentful.

If no one is brave enough to tackle the issue head on, it can very well mean that the issue is not defined. Meaning essentially, that no one really knows where the problem begins or ends. Making everyone jump on someone for a perceived wrong. This is quite clearly seen with people just yelling at someone saying they are a racist or a bigot as an insult versus actual fact.

All in all, as strange it may sound, it would be better for people to say that they are racist, bigots, or whatever, because it’s better that they say so and work out their feelings. Or someone just talks to them and explains why they shouldn't. However, that would be ideally in a perfect world, and thus we wouldn’t have this issue. 

But maybe, instead if someone does express that they feel that way, it’s not because they are a monster, it’s just that they are being honest with themselves. Subsequently, they could also not know if they are actually something, because everyone just simply overreacts over the topic. 

Nevertheless, even if someone is something that is seen as wrong,they are still people, so don’t yell, try and walk with them to explain why they feel so. There is always a reason. You don’t just have problems because you do.