Was Love Not Good Enough?

Why do relationships fail. Where there is love, it shouldn’t fail, but it does. It seems a tragedy, that two hearts that loved each other fail. It seems so wrong that love would fail. However, at a closer look, love does not fail, it never gives in, but rather the feeling of love does so.

Love fails because people are often not really in love with their love, but in love with the feeling of love. Since the feeling of love is a feeling, it is fleeting. What most people don’t understand, is that love is not just when you feel something. Love is more than that, love is a choice.

The feeling of love is immense, it is empowering, it is like a drug. A drug in so many ways that the same dopamine rush that lovers feel, cocaine users feel. This release of dopamine and all the different chemicals provide a true high. A high you don’t want to let go now or ever.

The problem with just feeling love, is that it cannot survive the hard times. Or really just the normal times. You won’t always feel loving towards someone. You may feel bored with them, you may feel angry at them, or you may just not get along with them.

Although you may love someone, if you have a fight or you get bored with them, it’s going to be a lot harder to love someone, because all you have is your love, and the feeling of love that is holding you together.

In today’s society we are consumers, and if a relationship doesn’t work, we just leave. This is sometimes for better or for worst. Better because, it means that people can leave damaging relationships. Bad, because instead of trying to work out problems or issues that could be solved, people just move on, meaning that love never stood a chance, for there was no commitment at all.

Love fails, because people don’t get along, they don’t think about love or the person. They are just led by a feeling. The same feelings that can feel hate, boredom, and repulsion. Love is more than an emotion. Letting emotions rule a relationship is a disaster. It’s like buying a car, you may love that car, but if it isn’t actually a good car, no matter how much you love that car, it’s not going to get better. It’s not going to be everything you wanted. Sure, you can get the car fixed, serviced, or whatever, but ultimately, feelings really don’t have that much to do with the car. Yes, feelings may help you make decisions, but they are not the deciding factor. Nor should they always be so.

Love has been something that has been around for a very long time. The concept of love has changed in people’s mind, but love has always been what it has been, not the preconceptions of humanity’s views of it. Nevertheless, relationships fail because love has been perceived incorrectly, and that is why relationships have been left weakened. Love can sustain a relationship, but the feeling of love, cannot do so.