Bully For You

Bullies want to abuse you. Instead of allowing that, you can use them as your personal motivators. Power up and let the bully eat your dust. ~ Nick Vujicic

Most people do not wake up in the morning and say,”Thank God I'm a bully, I love this job!” Most people also don't wake up in the morning and say anything. Anyhow, the thing about bullies is this: Do they know what they are? Naturally of course most people do know, but honestly, would someone be willing to admit that they are one?

With being a bully, it can be categorized into four main areas. These four areas of bullying are: cyber, physical, social, and covert. Cyber bullying, is bullying someone online or through some form of technology, physical is your typical bullying where you see Bobby beating up Johnny, social is when the cool kids sit on one table and then run like the plague when you sit with them, and lastly, but not least, is covert bullying. Covert bullying is spreading rumors or lies about someone.

However, all the above doesn't really matter at all. The reason is that no one actually believes themselves a bully. Most people will not believe that they are bullies even if they are. The truth is not something people are willing to tell themselves. As a whole, bullies are despised group of people. 

The problem with all these campaigns, is that they never addresses how to really know if your a bully. Or even how a bully can look like anyone, and not just the stereotypical bully. The irony is that bullies could actually despise bullies, yet not know they are one. Most people are casual bullies. In fact everyone has been a bully before, you might just not know it.

Also, another flaw with bullying campaigns is that they aren't very clear. Stop bullying. Well that's nice, but how? It needs to be more concrete. While changing the wave might be nice, sometimes you have to change yourself so you can change the wave.

Victims usually can't change bullies, unless the roles reverse. And that is not really that great. The only thing you can really change is the victims. It might not be what people want to hear, but you will always be bullied. For every social place will have a bully or someone who has the potential until a victim walks in. If someone carries themselves a certain way, they will attract certain attention. The thing about bullying is that there must always be a bully and victim. If you remove one them out of the equation there is no bullying.

 Howbeit, just because you get rid of bully one does not mean you have won the war. If you get rid of one, another will pop up. Or if you stand up for someone who is being bullied he/she will just be bullied when your not around. Helping someone that day may be a life saver, but in general we should see the bigger picture.

All in all, anti-bullying campaigns should continue. However, maybe they need to be focused on something else. Bullying, over the years hasn't lessened, but increased. This doesn't mean that bullying should not be stopped or that you should let others be bullied. However, what it does mean is that people need to rethink how they see bullying. Bullying can be stopped, it's not impossible, but people will always be mean. It would seem to be better to help victims so that they can no longer be bullied.