Your Not Defined By Your Bedroom

It's not fair the emphasis put on beauty, or on sexuality ~ Rosanna Arquette

It's rather silly that people let their sexuality define them and limit them. It seems that people take too much stock into where their taste lie. To be honest, sex isn't really a big part of our lives. It's more of something that people spend thinking about most about their life. Letting it define you is silly. It would be like someone letting their taste in cars define them. Ironically, people do that. Anyhow, we need to rethink things.

When someone says their gay, there's almost that pause. The same doesn't really apply with saying your straight. Technically, making that not very sexual equality and stuff. Nevertheless, why should it matter that your gay or straight in seeing you as a human being. It doesn't tell us anything about you. It may tell us what you like to do at certain times of the night or some activities. However, it only tells us what stereotypes that we know about you. It does not tell if you are: good, bad, smart, funny, or annoying. It does not tell us nada.

This is really seen with someone commenting that if all they did was reveal that they were gay their life was complete. It's ridiculous that people would have such attitudes. Being gay is not beneficial to humanity as it is like someone's taste in art decor. It's something that you do and like, but it doesn't save children in Africa. 

Yes, it may be something about you, but I don't think it should define you. It does sound a bit lame when you think about: I love smoothies, or, I am man/woman that has taste in the opposite/same smoothie.

There just seems so many important things to know about a person. I would rather know if you help old ladies cross the street or if you can do parallel parking well.

Also, why should your sexuality limit you. People say that's gay. Does it matter if it looks gay? Just because something looks gay does not mean it is so? And most of the time it's not even really “gay”. Homosexuality is only when you live a certain lifestyle and are attracted to the same sex. Not by an act or clothing.

Another problem, is that you will put yourself into a box. Just because your guy and you think another guy is attractive does not make you gay. So in the same way, you may say an animals is attractive does not mean you want to get funny with it. The sexuality issue is blown way out of proportion. It's too black and white. A lot of things are just being human not being gay or straight. Guys need hugs and things that may seem gay. When they're in reality what all men need as human males. Girls need to be tough and things, but that don't make them butch or lesbian.

The thing is really seen ever so strongly with the names we give people bi-curious, bisexual, or whatever names they give. Just because you do something or feel something does not make you totally all of sudden into or gay or straight person. It's not like once you pass a certain line your evermore that. No turning point for you! It's neither that, we are just human. Not any category someone put us into.

Sure, there is definitely the category of being gay or straight, but there is a lot of things you could do and still not be either one. Just because one side does that does not mean exclusive membership. Somethings rather just belong to humanity like drinking water. It doesn't matter what side you swing to, you all need water.

In closing, this is not about the whole equality marriage thing. This is not something that is this or that. The LGBT may, scream, but this is not about them. They can go fight and yell their hatred toward their foe, as they do best. However, this is just about not letting you be stuck in what a name gives you. Whether you believe in homosexuality is right or wrong, is not being questioned here. Rather, why let something control you? Such things should not limit you to greater things in life or force you be something just because it may seem or look like it.