It might seem obvious to most people,
but some people would probably ask why having a mother and a father in
children lives are important. Over the years, studies and history has
shown that having a father and a mother are important, if not vital.
It seems strange that some people wouldn’t realize this, and would
even be upset by such a statement, but it’s the truth.
As time goes by, there have been many
studies mentioning how crucial having a father in children lives are.
The benefits include: being more stable, increase in cognitive
ability, having healthy sexual lives, prone to have less behavior
problems, and the list goes on as do the studies.
While that is just the benefits of
having a father, one is not even really going to talk about the
benefits of having a mother, because it seems like something you
would just say,”duh.” However, a mother, where can you start? How
does someone even begin? What can you say about someone who cares and
nurtures you, and loves you even when others don’t? Studies don’t
need to be proven to show that you need a mother more than you need
your right hand.
Nevertheless, people are changing that
ideal, that fundamental truth, that a father and mother are best.
While change is good and needed sometimes. The problem is that this
doesn’t seem to be something that can be changed. Sure kids and
children can live without having a mother or father and they will be
healthy; still alive and kicking.
However, to have the most optimal up
bringing for children, a stable or even a semi competent mother and
father is needed research has found. Time and time again, whatever
people try and change, or counter research, it still holds. Things
may change in society, people may say this or say that, but all their
studies and all their ideals just fall away until the truth just
remains.
The thing is that it’s not just
studies saying this but children that are now adults that were raised
by same-sex-couples. Through great courage these children are finally speaking
out. Not out of hate, but how they felt, and what they have heard
from others like them. An example would be the famous four (B.N.
Klein, Robert Oscar Lopez, Dawn Stefanowicz, and Katy Faust) who
commented we need fathers and mothers. That they all had a yearning
for a mother or father, even though some of them had loving
guardians.
Another case is Heather Barwick, who
loved her mum, loved her mother’s partner and supported gay
marriage all the way into her 20s. However, now that she has grown up, she
has had time to reflect that kids miss so much when they don’t have
a mother or a father in their lives.
Despite new studies that say otherwise
to having a father and a mother is best, there are many new studies,
but also previous studies that prove these studies wrong.
Furthermore, these new studies that claim children don’t need
mothers or fathers are just dodgy to say the least. With questionable
sampling methods or funders who want a certain result to show.
Society is built on children. The
people of tomorrow are today’s children. Yes, families don’t
always work out, but to say that fathers and mothers are not needed
is incorrect. Whatever happens in this life we will need fathers and
mothers whether they be our real fathers or mothers. Children, even
grown adults, need a mother and father figure in their life. To say
otherwise, is a conscience decision to make a weaker society for
tomorrow.
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