One Word and Many Things

Hello, I am a writer, and I'm called Jack Snider. For those that have followed me over the years or those that have recently had a peek at what I do, I am me.

Nevertheless, over the years my writing style has changed, for better and for worse. However, with every change and season there is an opportunity to reinvent yourself. While blogging is a wonderful thing and I have enjoyed it over the years, I believe a new fresh style of writing is in order.

As to how it will look, I'm not too sure, but I know one thing, I want to change the way I write to you guys. Whether I will write more or less is hard to tell. However, I'm willing to give it a shot, so let's see where this leads. Anyhow that's enough jawing off let's think about something and talk about how one word can change everything.

There are some words that will stick with you forever. It can be one line or just one word at times.

For those that have been in a relationship, you know two words that can change everything, love or goodbye.

In many ways I believe that words are powerful, but at the same time I don't believe they are powerful. What I think is powerful is sometimes the words that is behind them, that makes everything different, the feeling or passion.

But to say that it's always that would be wrong. Sometimes the most careless words make the most impact, or maybe they're the tipping point. Nevertheless, either way words hold great power, and sometimes they don't.

Which make words quite the grenade, that may go off or not. So should we walk on tip toes? Not really there's enough of that in our society to last a lifetime, but maybe just realize the words you say to those who you hold dear, because while others are more important, they are the ones who you will live or die for in this life.

I leave you with this thought, how can your words destroy or change the world?

Update

Hey guys,

This week I won't be writing for the blog as I'm super busy. But with that in mind, have a great week everyone, and stay safe!

Jack Snider

All the Money In the World

You can be prosperous and you can be rich, but just because you are rich doesn’t mean you are prosperous. Prosperity means you are making more wealth with each passing day. Riches, means that you have a large sum of money, they are two different things, and there lies why some are people poor, and why some are rich.

If someone was to inherit a large sum of money, if someone was to find treasure, or if someone was to win the lottery, they would be rich. On the other hand, if someone built up a company from nothing and was receiving wealth from it or if someone was able to use their hands and with everything they touched they turned it to gold, you could say those individuals were prosperous.

The difference between those, is that riches are just something you got saddled with, but being prosperous is about you, as an individual making your own fortune. Furthermore, sometimes, with those who have riches, aren’t really wealthy, or truly well off. The reason so, is that the reason someone is prosperous is that they are are so because of their life choices.

Often those with riches squander it, because they never had the skills to deal with it, the maturity to deal with it, and the life lesson of earning those riches. With some people who do have sudden wealth, it can sometimes extenuate their reason for not having wealth in the first place: bad saving habits, caving into friends and family financial demands, etc. For instance, if someone won the lottery, they would most likely spend it on things that they could never have, meaning expensive items, and if not that, they spend it on others.

This doesn’t necessarily mean that the money is not well spent, it just means that riches are being depleted, but it also means that the money whether good or bad, is not being wisely spent on finding a way to make more of it.

It’s interesting how, no matter how many riches you can give someone, they will never be prosperous, just because of their outlook on money or the unwise choices that they choose to do with money. There is sometimes literally no way to help them with money. In fact, giving money can be the last thing you want to do, because it will make things worst.

There are many reasons people are rich, but there are only a few reasons for someone being prosperous. Just because you are rich does not mean you will always be so. Too often people want to be rich, yet don’t realize what it really entails. Being rich does not solve problems, because sometimes the reason people are not rich is the very reason they will not be so, even if they had riches.

There is nothing wrong with being rich, but at the end of the day, if you cannot handle what you have, you will not be able to handle what you don’t have.

Love and Shiny Things

Humans need emotional connection. Without connection, there is no love, there is no friendship and there is no bonding that ties people together. Often humans may be attracted to a certain trait to someone that draws them to a person, but often, that trait, will not, and cannot sustain a relationship. If there is no emotional connection, a relationship is doomed to failure.

People may like someone, love someone, for a certain thing that helped them establish a deeper relationship, but that first connection, is not usually an emotional connection. With an emotional connection, it is the thing that will define a relationship, whether it will last or fail.

As human beings we long to have a meaningful connection to someone. It’s interesting, there was case of a woman who was absolutely torn, because she couldn’t understand why her husband had an affair with another woman. Another woman who wasn’t nearly as stunning as her. It turns out, simply put, she was an ice queen. Although, the other woman was not as beautiful as this woman, her husband was able to connect with this other woman.

Why humans long for this connection would be, because we are more heart than head. If the heart is happy, the head will be so. Often the head will make the decisions from the beginning, but once the heart is truly involved, the head will lose against the heart.

A lot of decisions, as humans will be made by our heart. If there is no emotional connection to another person, the heart will not be satisfied. And if the heart is not satisfied, there is not heart, literally and figuratively speaking. 

So what can be learnt really is this, you don't have to be anything or want anything from a person, as long as you can find someone you have an emotional connection. You don't have to worry about looks, you don't have to worry about  many things. You just have to really worry about one thing only, do we have a connection that can enable us to talk for hours or spend time with another person in just comfortable silence. 

If any relationship is to succeed, despite the benefits or shiny things that someone may bring to the table whether it be: sex, looks, talents. It cannot compare to emotional connection. If you want to truly know who are the people you really want in your life, it is those who you have an emotional connection to.

The Nazi That Wasn't

Nazis, in general were horrible people. People known for their hatred of the Jews and being German. Despite Nazis being horrible people, not all the horrible people can be categorized in this world as Nazis. Furthermore, this distinction is important, and not everyone who is evil can be called a Nazi.

Nazis were founded by Hitler in 1925, they spread terror and killed millions of Jews, minorities, and many other types of people. Their reign of terror has scarred the world. So much so that, often people who see anything that looks like a Nazi, people will immediately count someone as a Nazi.

To further add to this confusion would be Neo Nazis, who are a group of people who follow the Nazis way, but with some added jargon. These people hate the Jews and are racist. These people, for want of better words are the real Nazis of the day.

While they are not really Nazis, as Nazis, where just Germans or people who fought for Hitler, maybe not necessarily always sharing his ideals or committing or the horrible atrocious as many did, but Nazis any way. With Neo Nazis, they are just people who worship Hitler and some of his ideals.

Although seeming, unimportant this distinction, it really is, as not all evil people are Nazis. Furthermore, it is too broad description, and it makes it all to easy to lessen what happened to the Jews and all the other people who died because of the Nazis. Because if the description of a Nazi is someone who is mean or just is racist, then many people are Nazis, and that would be inaccurate, but also making Nazis seem less horrific. 

Furthermore, sometimes if you mis-caterogize something, it means that it can be harder to deal with an issue. Take for instance, the so many words we use to describe a disease. If they all had the same word, we wouldn't know how to treat each problem differently. Like trying to deal with cancer in the same way you would deal with a heart attack. 

Nazis are evil people and so can others who seem like that. However, if we don’t make the distinction between the two, we will find that people are classified more evil or good than they really are. There are levels of evil in this world, and if we do not categorize them correctly, we may find we may call others who look like them when they are not. So thus, making a world that is more hateful than it should be.

Take A Risk, Hurt Doesn't Last Forever

In life you get hurt. You can get hurt emotionally, physically, and mentally. Life, you could say when you are hurt or feeling pained, is a big ball of pain. However, life is more than the pain, hurt we feel. To live life is to hurt, but it is also, the great chance to have love, joy, success, and many good things that you would never experience without taking the risk.

When you wake up you might get hurt because you remember the past events from the week or day before. So when you wake up, you feel hurt. After hopping out of bed, you could step on something, and get hurt. You could go brush your teeth, there are more things that you could stub your foot, trip, just from walking to the bathroom. You could go eat breakfast and you could cut yourself while buttering toast. You could leave the house, and there are infinite more dangers. Broken hearts, cancer, flu, small to medium children that are rude, and many more things that could spell you being injured.

However, being hurt is not bad, it’s not good, but everything that we do, we always run the risk of getting hurt. Sure, it sucks when we get hurt, but think about all the things we would be missing if we don’t give ourselves the opportunity. Being hurt is normal, and there is nothing wrong, even if it’s just little things that make you upset or get you hurt. It’s normal.

Nevertheless, what you do with that hurt is the million dollar question, if you let that hurt fester, or if you just stuff it down, that is when hurt, just goes septic. Most people, don’t know how to deal with pain, and in turn they can sometimes get more hurt, in their ways of trying to hide, or get rid of it. With hurt, you can sometimes think that by secluding yourself or being less trustful, will make you get less hurt, it won’t, you will still get hurt. Also, you will be losing many opportunities to do things, if you hide away.

The ability to deal with hurt, is the key to greatness, because if you are always hiding away in your hurt, you cannot push yourself to talk to others, to go out, because you are afraid of getting hurt. It’s understandable if you are wary, but don’t let the fear of hurt stop you. We aren’t invincible, sadly, but we can be fast healers, by letting the hurt out, not on others, but sometimes by: telling others, singing it out, screaming it out, punching it out. Whatever way, hurt shouldn’t stay with you, because it breeds like bunnies on a fine summer day.

Life is painful, but do you know what is more painful? Missing out on life, because you were afraid of being hurt. Take a risk, it’s what life is, and if you get hurt, pick yourself, and if you are really hurt, go heal yourself. But whatever happens, don’t let the hurt stay.

The Ability To Watch Rain Drops For Hours

Patience is a virtue that many don’t possess in life. Patience can be a difficult virtue to acquire in this life, especially now that things can be so easily, and speedily brought towards us. In a matter of years, or the slow events of a century, our society has come comfortable with the dizzy velocity that we have with each day, so much so that we are often taken unaware by the slow plod of life at times.

Patience looks like the ability to stand against a storm and keep on moving at the same pace diligently along. Neither going faster or slower, but just moving along. It’s the ability to stand against pressure and hold fast. While that might sound a like a different definition from the common term of patience, it can be best explained like this. When one has the ability to sit still, and just sit there, that is dealing with the pressure of the need to do something, or fidget, that is standing against pressure. This is the reason, when one has patience, they can said to be able to stand against a great force.

Being patience really builds character, especially seen from that perspective that when you are using patience, you are actually standing against great forces and staying firm. It’s almost like how you could say that a rock is patient as water surges around it, trying to make it move, but the rock just patiently just sits there.

Patience is an excellent virtue to have, as it teaches you not to rush things. It teaches you to control yourself when you cannot control things around you. It’s been said that if you can control yourself, you can control others. While a bit of a dark saying, often at times in life, we have no control of the situation, but we can always choose how we react and respond. By being patient, you can access situations better and make better situations.

Patience is a lost art, because we don’t have to control ourselves or wait for things as often. Nevertheless, just because we have moved so far into the future with learning, technology and other such things, we still need the simple, yet powerful virtue. So as you go about life, don’t be afraid to practice patience, and understand that you aren't just being patient, to be a more calmer person. You are actually learning to engage to learn to push back on pressures, making you someone better at handling stressful or consuming tasks.

Not Anyone’s Tool

Love is commonly used, and rarely at times used as love. People have different ideals of love. Fine, everyone has different opinions. However, what is not tolerable is that people are using love. Just using it for their purposes and yet they believe that the love they use will be a pure love. A love that others should respect.

Love is the giving and receiving between two individuals. It need not be sexual, it is just something that happens. However, what love is not, is when people say that they are in love and everyone has to respect that love. The fact that someone needs to tell everyone about their love, would seem that they are doing something else besides love.

People use love to further their goals quite often, whether it be full scale, or between two individuals. People will often lie about their reasons and call it love. However, just because love is a wonderful thing, does not mean that what they speak is right. It would be like saying that the man who lures children with tasty chocolate is right. Chocolate is wonderful, the pedophile not so much.

It’s not love and it’s not pure, if people are using love. Often people will say,”It’s all about love here.” Usually when they say that, they are using the guise of love to further their own political causes. By saying that it’s all about love, they are actually saying that those who don’t agree with them are not loving, therefore evil. However, what they are doing is the opposite of love, they are tricking others into a cause, and shaming those who don’t believe in their cause. That doesn’t seem very loving.

Another example would be the LGBT, for such a “loving” cause, there is a lot of money in it. Who is benefiting from all that merchandise that they sell? It’s quite safe to say, the “fight” for “love” is definitely loved by the companies selling the means for the LGBT’s war.

Too often, people will use love as a guise to disguise their behavior to justify their actions and just say it’s all about love. Such behavior is not only shameful and disgusting, but it is dishonest. Sadly, many seem to fall for such behavior as the truth. Not only is it perverting the meaning of love by lying about what love is, or what they are doing, it is giving people the wrong idea of love.

At the end of the day, love is about giving and receiving of love between people. When it becomes something else, or when people are using that love, it is not love. Love is many things, but it is not someone doing whatever they like and waving a banner to excuse their behavior or promote whatever they like.

The Color Of Passion: Red

Passion can only be described sometimes, as the richest of reds. Passion is a beautiful sight to the eyes, sound to ears, and smell to the nose. When passion is lacking from a place or person, you can physically feel the loss of it. With passion, you can have everything right, you can have, riches, the items, the trappings, but when a place, a business, or person has no passion, there is no life, and where there is no life, there is death.

A life without passion is a very dark world. Even the most dullest of people will always have a passion for something, whether it be the most boring or insignificant thing that existed in this life, passion is something that is rife in life. Where there is life, there is passion, passion is what makes people wake up in life, passion is what makes love. And on a more humorous note, passion can very well make the next generation.

Without passion in someone’s life, there is no purpose, no reason for doing something. Often people have passion, yet they don’t let it drive them, instead, they put their passion on the side. However, passion is what gives them life, yet they don’t grasp at it. Passion is the pinnacle of our lives, in the fact, it is the motivation and reason we do things. Passion is the difference from suffering and sweating to climb up a hill, to a brisk walk to reach something that we desire.

Passion is admirable to have in yourself, because it encourages you and pushes you forward, but it is also highly attractive to others. As human beings we love passion. We love stories where people were passionate. Passionate about their love, passionate about a cause, or even passionate about food. Maybe that is why there are so many food channels. People are passionate.

When we are passionate, we can do anything, look at the American revolution, look at Martin Luther King, look at some of the things people are creating everyday. When there is passion, exciting and amazing things happen. If people are not passionate about what they do to a certain extent, there is no point for them being there. It does two things, it wastes your time and others, that is why, where you are passionate, go. And where are there are others who are passionate with you, anything can happen.

This life that we lead, is about passion, it’s inescapable, and its beautiful. All the great things in life are made because of passion, because someone was driven to to do something, so they bettered themselves, so they spent the time, and went above and beyond to make something amazing. Passion is refreshing and always alluring as it is life, so if you feel like life is not as bright as it use to be, find passion in yourself or others, and then you will find life itself.

Poverty, While Surrounded By Riches

The poverty mentality is an interesting concept that it affects so many, and is so common, that rarely are people aware of it. Its something that all of us susceptible to a certain degree. However, you don’t have to be rich or poor to have it, you just need to have the nagging fear or worry about lack in the back of your mind, whenever you breath, think, or do anything.

When you grow up in a poor home or in a place where you have lack, it can be hard to shake off that feeling of lack. However, poverty doesn’t necessarily beget a poverty mentality. Rather that because of a feeling of lack that was believed or taught, this mentality came about.

With the poverty mentality, it operates in manner such as, money is the fore front of everything. Everything is measured by money in a person’s life, their goals and dreams are wrapped around money. Often the person will be controlled by money or the fear of not having it.

There was a story of a woman who lived through the depression. She had to save and scrap so her family could survive. However, after the depression passed and she was well off, she still believed that she was living in poverty. It was to such an extent this poverty mentality, that a simple donation of five dollars for a party, she panicked and said,”I can’t afford it.”

With a poverty mentality, it affects how you perceive everything, because you believe you will always lack. Always fighting for something, always struggling, never ever getting what you truly desire because at one stage, you were taught you couldn’t get something.

While there is a certain truth to it, the best lies are the half ones. Often, everything you desire or want, you can have if you work smart and hard for it. People can delude themselves in thinking that they are being frugal, grateful, content or whatever mentality, when in actuality, it is a poverty mentality. Money doesn’t solve all things in the world, but neither will poverty.

Believing that you will always lack, won’t just affect your view on money, it will affect your relationships, because you believe you will lack, and that you cannot get what you truly want. Making you someone who feels trapped and unable to get anything. This poverty spirit will follow you all your life, until you make the decision to change, and truly go after the things you want or desire; Not letting fear or poverty stop you.

More Updates!

Dear Reader,

 I am back. Over the last few days, it has been rather interesting as I have been dealing with no internet and going away so thus I did not have internet. To make a long story short, I went away to do some work and when I came back home, my internet was down. The irony though is, that when I went away I told you, the reader, that I would have no internet when I went to where I would go. Thus I could not write. However, when I came back, there was also no internet, making me unable to write. Nevertheless, all is fixed. So yeah! I'm back, and I'm here to stay. Keep reading and enjoying this blog.

All the Best,

Jack Snider!

The Words that We Use

Good communication is the ability to relate your thoughts into another’s mind. The message that you give, possesses all the information and feeling that you mean to give. Sounding simple, it is relatively hard to do so. Like how Alan Greenspan once said,”I know you think you understand what you thought I said but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant?” Giving simple instructions or talking, is actually more difficult than thought, which inherently is the problem of communication: Misunderstandings and not fully grasping the situation.

There is an art to good communication. People communicate every minute and every hour, but rarely is the full communication received. Due to there being several ways to communicate, and not all of them verbal. It’s easy to see where things could go desperately wrong, when we even struggle to communicate verbally.

People have written books, seminars, tapes, pod-casts, and various ways to communicate their message. The irony, people still scratch their head after listening, reading, or watching these communications on communication.

 Furthermore, even this essay which is about understanding communication may not fully translate into the minds of others, the message that I am trying to bring,

Why there is such a struggle with communication, is because we don’t always realize that others are reading a different messages from our words. And other times, we are just simply unaware of the messages we are sending out. Whether it be our voice, words, or body language.

 Adding to that mix, is that we all have a different experiences, and come from different walks of life. Despite that being so, we also often struggle to communicate successfully to our own family members in a deep and meaningful manner. Our own very flesh and blood!

With good communication, it is really a matter of thinking about what you say carefully. Having empathy and understanding how others will receive your message is the first step. Furthermore, being aware of your surroundings, the scene, the music playing in the background, the atmosphere, will really be part of your message when you talk to someone. All these insignificant things count, when you speak, because when you speak to another being, it’s going through a filter. This filter is their heart and their mind, of what they have seen and done.

It’s not necessarily of whether it’s right how others see things, but a matter of, "will they be able to understand?". Good communication doesn’t have to be passages and passages of writings, or long sagas of oral communication. The message, just needs to be able to communicate all that you mean, clearly, efficiently, and quickly.

Good communication can be a lot of work. However, communication is key, as every person you meet, you will communicate, even if they be deaf, blind, dumb, smart, good looking, ugly or anything really;You will need communication. It is so important, and it is worth the effort, if you want to live a happy and long life.

Good communication is simple as it is hard. As you learn and try to realize that communication is more than just opening and shutting your mouth, you will find yourself conversing more easily with others. Once that fundamental understanding is recognized in your life, your communication will vastly improve. Many a time, people don’t actually realize that how they, grunt, shrug, or communicate, is not always the best way to do things. Life is about talking with others, so embracing good communication, is a step to embracing a better life.

Rain Check

Hello Guys,

I will be going away for a week, and the place I'll be going I won't have access to a computer. So this week there will be no post. However, I'll be back next week hopefully to write another one.

All the best,

Jack Snider

How To Break A Heart

To break a heart, you just have to live life. Life is full of heart break. If you look around everywhere, you see people who look tired, they look sad, and they look hard from the cares of life. But that doesn’t mean that you should get use to hearts being broken. Why hearts are broken, happens for several reasons, but usually the results are quite similar. The only difference, is the level of heart break.

How are hearts broken? They are usually are broken the same time trust is shattered into a thousand pieces. Hearts are broken because, much was given and little was returned, making a heart go to waste. Hearts are broken because they needed to be tough, so they stopped working to stop feeling pain. Hearts break so often, and for so many reasons.

This breaking of hearts, sometimes it happens in one moment, one word, and other times, it happens with each passing hour, ever so slowly.

Heart break happens all the time, since every human has a heart, but just because it is a common occurrence, it doesn’t make it any less tragic that they do break. A common tragedy doesn’t make it any sadder, or normal, it just makes it all the more heartbreaking that something so terrible, could be called common.

As to why hearts are broken, it’s because hearts are made to give and receive love. We should guard our hearts, but since we need love, our hearts are always going to want to have love and to give it. Because, is that not what hearts do?

Love can destroy a heart and love can mend a heart. So guard your hearts, and don’t become another broken heart, because once broken, they are hard to fix. Let your heart, be neither hard, nor too open on your sleeve. Guard your heart, and look carefully to those who you choose to hold your heart.

Was Love Not Good Enough?

Why do relationships fail. Where there is love, it shouldn’t fail, but it does. It seems a tragedy, that two hearts that loved each other fail. It seems so wrong that love would fail. However, at a closer look, love does not fail, it never gives in, but rather the feeling of love does so.

Love fails because people are often not really in love with their love, but in love with the feeling of love. Since the feeling of love is a feeling, it is fleeting. What most people don’t understand, is that love is not just when you feel something. Love is more than that, love is a choice.

The feeling of love is immense, it is empowering, it is like a drug. A drug in so many ways that the same dopamine rush that lovers feel, cocaine users feel. This release of dopamine and all the different chemicals provide a true high. A high you don’t want to let go now or ever.

The problem with just feeling love, is that it cannot survive the hard times. Or really just the normal times. You won’t always feel loving towards someone. You may feel bored with them, you may feel angry at them, or you may just not get along with them.

Although you may love someone, if you have a fight or you get bored with them, it’s going to be a lot harder to love someone, because all you have is your love, and the feeling of love that is holding you together.

In today’s society we are consumers, and if a relationship doesn’t work, we just leave. This is sometimes for better or for worst. Better because, it means that people can leave damaging relationships. Bad, because instead of trying to work out problems or issues that could be solved, people just move on, meaning that love never stood a chance, for there was no commitment at all.

Love fails, because people don’t get along, they don’t think about love or the person. They are just led by a feeling. The same feelings that can feel hate, boredom, and repulsion. Love is more than an emotion. Letting emotions rule a relationship is a disaster. It’s like buying a car, you may love that car, but if it isn’t actually a good car, no matter how much you love that car, it’s not going to get better. It’s not going to be everything you wanted. Sure, you can get the car fixed, serviced, or whatever, but ultimately, feelings really don’t have that much to do with the car. Yes, feelings may help you make decisions, but they are not the deciding factor. Nor should they always be so.

Love has been something that has been around for a very long time. The concept of love has changed in people’s mind, but love has always been what it has been, not the preconceptions of humanity’s views of it. Nevertheless, relationships fail because love has been perceived incorrectly, and that is why relationships have been left weakened. Love can sustain a relationship, but the feeling of love, cannot do so.

Trust Me To Trust You

In a backwards way, when people break your trust, they are not breaking anything, because choosing to give someone your trust is a decision you make, and not up to them. While you maybe disappointed in a person, nothing is being a broken, unless you decide to do something. The giving or taking back of trust is something that you do.

When deciding to trust someone, you have to make the decision if you trust them or not. It’s a rather simplistic way of seeing things, but either you choose to trust them or you don’t trust them. If you trust them, then you trust them so there is no problem. And if you choose to distrust them, well you distrust them.

The problem in between, is that people doubt their judgment of a person. They wonder if they are seeing the truth. In a sense, people are actually wondering about themselves versus the person when you think about it. They are worried that their discernment of a person is not good enough and that they will be hurt.

However, in reality, people do not trust themselves, in their ability to trust others correctly that they will treat them right. Bringing this truth home, trust is not broken or given by others. It is only given by you, the one who will make the decision to give or take back, by your ability to discern a character.

So choosing to trust someone in a strange way is trusting yourself and your abilities. People cannot take away your trust. They may make you want to or take it back, but people can’t take something that they never gave in the first place. Trust is something that you learn to give to others when you feel right about them, and you feel that you can trust them so you give it. It is all really based upon your feelings. So when choosing to trust someone, make sure you trust yourself.

A Step, Just a Step

Some of the most cheesiest, famous, cliches are just true. The problem with them, is that they are what they are, words. Simply words, that lack context or meaning unless said greatly. Like how a normal person can say something, and then Morgan Freeman can say it. However, despite them being cliché, they can be true, and one of those cliches, would be that the thousand step journey begins with one step.

Most people have dreams, but the difference between those that have dreams and those that achieve their dreams is: One has dreams, and the other makes those dreams tangible.

If you have a dream, but don’t work on that dream, it makes it just a pie in the sky.

Given enough time and trying, a dream will always come true. Anything, given enough time, despite the odds will always come true.

Too often, when people want to do something, they stop short when they look at themselves or the amount in their wallet, and just mumble,”That’s life.” But the truth is far from that, reality is bent by the wills of men and women who choose another reality.

For instance, let’s say you wanted to climb mount Everest. Not only is mountain climbing expensive with all the gear, it is also very physically challenging. Most people would say, “It’s too expensive and that’s life, if only I was rich.”

However, in reality, even if they had the money and said the same thing, it would be the same. Mount Everest is not just about money, it’s also about training your body and doing the research. It’s not really that someone couldn’t do it, money or no money, it’s really just because they never even tried.

Most goals or dreams that never come true, is simply because the right technique was not applied. However, most of the time it’s really because people don’t even try. If people choose to fail before they even try, of course that dream is impossible. Too often people put dreams on the back burner or they just give up when looking at the task. The truth about dreams is that they are possible if some effort is made. Even things that are possible require effort, dreams are no different.

So if you have a dream and it seems impossible, don’t look at the impossible, do the possible. Because once that is done, you are one step closer, making that dream more tangible then ever.

Be It Wrong?

 

Abortion is the termination of a fetus in clinical terms. Or an abortion is the killing, murder, of a living being that was brought into existence. Whatever you call it, that is what abortion is. It is the ending of a person or it, which ever camp you call it. Some call it a right, some call it as right as putting a bullet in someone’s head.

There are two ways to have an abortion, either by a pill that will secrete toxins into the womb of the mother and end the fetus, and death by suction, where the vacuum gently grabs the fetus, baby, and pops it out in bits.

The argument about abortion, or to be accurate, one of the many arguments is, “When does a baby become a baby?” “What is a person?”

However, to make matters simple, the definition of a person that, maybe can be all agreed is when a baby has a heart beat. While others might have other ideals, and so do I, but if someone has a heart and its beating, we can at least all agree that is when a person is a person. For a heart has desires, and dreams, no matter how big or small.

With a baby, it can have a heart beat as early 3 weeks and as a late to 8 weeks. However, since every baby is different, they can vary greatly and so will sources when they say that a heart beat begins. To bring that into context though, this means it will either be two months or one month into a pregnancy that a baby has a heartbeat, which is less than a tv series season.

However what makes it more, sad, distressing? That in some countries, it is possible to have an abortion all the way up to 9 months, which is as long as a full pregnancy. While not sounding that remarkable, healthy babies have been born at 6 months or in some cases 21 weeks. Meaning that, even if you don’t believe that a baby is a human being when they have a heart beat at three weeks, they are definitely a person at six months.

The irony is this, if a baby could grab a knife and cut its way out of the womb before its mother did it to it, the baby could live. Because once out of the womb it would be a person.

The tragedy, is that the only reason a baby might not see the sun is that they are stuck in their mother’s womb who chose to end theirs. A few inches of skin stop them from living. If you grabbed a woman who was having abortion at 8 months and took the baby out of her unwillingly and then gave her back the baby that she wanted to end. The “fetus”, that she was trying to end legally, that was in her, is now a baby, because it is out of her. Thus making a right in the womb, into a crime out of the womb, if she was to kill it.

Another aspect to abortion, is that when someone who wants to have a baby has a miscarriage, the baby is not an it, usually no matter how young or old it is. It seems strange that people can understand the grief of a mother losing a baby when technically it was just a fetus, an it, by clinical terms. Furthermore, by medical terms an abortion is an assisted miscarriage. It just seems that as a society we can grieve over the same thing, but at the same time cry out it as a right in other circumstances.

There are many reasons people have abortions, some for purely selfish reasons, others for more grey areas such as saving maybe the mother, but the truth is, after five weeks surely we can all agree that a sacrifice of some type is happening, and that someone is losing their life when an abortion happens. This post isn’t about discussing why people have an abortion, why it should happen and all the many reasons, that is a whole different topic or can of worms. A topic that can span just over everything from: religion, “equality”, woman rights, science, the environment, over population, and probably everything that is wrong with the world.

However, this post is not about that, its about pointing out that someone is dying, and it is not simply killing something that will be a person, but someone who is actually one.

This will probably get people’s hackles raised up, and people may yell, but while that is all going on, between all the insults, and red herrings, this isn’t about you, its about whether something is ethical. Is it wrong to kill that fetus, baby, and if so, why don’t we do enough about it?