Who We Are Today

 

The greatest pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do. ~ Walter Bagehot

What others say about you shouldn't define you. However, this doesn't means you take on the attitude that disregards others feelings or any authority. It's rather irritating that humans sometimes only have two extremes: Docile or really ferocious. Despite that, what people say don't and do matter. The problem is learning when to listen and when not to listen.

In life, people say hurtful things. Sometimes they don't say hurtful things and it still hurts. When that happens some people just start to not care for what other people say. While it might sound great that you are no longer bound by what people say, it's not really so.This does not free you to go to heights, which others were held back from. Rather when you stop caring what people think; You may inadvertently start stepping on everyone's toes.

We should care what people think as they are very much in our lives. However, we have to learn to balance and ignore the rubbish that spews out of people's mouths. The trick is learning to notice who actually speaks wisdom and who doesn't. In general, you'll learn how to notice those who wish you truly well, and those who only speak with words, to cause death. You might not always notice them, but it certainly helps being able to filter things out.

With people who wish you harm, it's best to block out what they say. Especially, if they're attacking you, and not being constructive at all. It's really best for everyone to avoid talking to such characters. Otherwise, you sink to their level. This doesn't mean that you won't have people who can be mean, and yet say constructive things. It won't always be effective, but it can help filter things to a reasonable amount. Sometimes if what people are saying just gets to you too much, just walk away. Take a breather, sometimes you might not have the option, but any chance to recuperate should be taken.

We have to listen to what people say, it's polite, we share the same planet. It's something you just have to bear. In those moments you have to keep chin up, always see the humorous side of things. Sometimes you can share the humorous side of things, and you get what that quote says: Laughing men, are not dangerous men. It can get hard, but one just has to learn to learn to listen. To choose whether to carry on after the first initial words that someone speaks or to stay.

 To sum it up, it's really about ignoring those don't matter and listening to those that matter. Howbeit, that doesn't mean that you can't give people the benefit of the doubt.