A Smart Heart

Do you know the old saying,”the road to hell is paved with good intentions.” Never before has that been so true. In life, we are told that we should treat others with kindness. There is nothing wrong with that. If we did do that, the world would be such a great place. Nevertheless, there is a difference between perceived kindness and real kindness.

Kindness, is when you treat someone nice. Kindness is when we treat a person so that they feel valued and helped. However, finding that kindness, on the other hand, with different beliefs, cultures, and other such things, can be difficult with varying opinions.

Additionally, even if we mean well and we believe that we're doing the right thing, it does not necessarily guarantee that our “good” deed is really so. Take for instance, if you gave a drug addict money to feed himself or herself, that would seem like kindness. However, you might find that the drug addict would go and buy their fix, and he or she would be worse off.

Although, someone may act out of kindness, kindness is actually being nice to someone so that it helps them, and not how you think could help them.This really should not put people off being kind. However, it's important to realize that although our intentions may be good, it doesn't necessarily mean it will translate so in our actions or results.

If we are to be truly kind, we need to find out what others really need. How does something really help someone. Only then we will truly be kind, because then we would be thoughtful. 

While we might have big hearts, we should have good minds. While thinking before you act might seem a strange way to apply to kindness, it fits perfectly. What we perceive as good or beneficial to others might not be so. This doesn’t mean that we condemn kindness, but rather: we have a head, and we have a heart, both should be listened to and applied to the situation.