Touchy Feely

Feeling emotions is what makes life rich. You need your passions. ~ Daniel Goleman

What do to do with emotions? Like naughty nymphs, they either plague us or bless us. As a rule of thumb, it's best to capture them, inspect them, take what is useful that is to be had, and you flush them away. Get rid of them. However, whatever you do, do not stuff 'em down.

Emotions are not fine wine. They do not mature with age. Rather, they are like bread, best when fresh, worst when stale, and maybe just maybe, if done right can be used for penicillin.

There is nothing wrong with emotions. Emotions are healthy. What is not healthy is what people do with it. It's a bit like what people do with poppy plants or hemp. They are plants. It's just what people do to them, they refine them and use them for purposes, that in the end hurt society. Yes, it can be done right, but is it done right?

Controlling your emotions is good. Denying your emotions is unhealthy. A lot of people think that when you don't admit something, it disappears. While heaven must be like that. Most likely hell is like that, because all those problems come to haunt you again. If you sweep your emotions underneath the carpet, they will come and get you, just like the boogy monster, usually in an unreal manner. It's a bit like an open wound, if left alone it can kill you.

There are usually two types attitudes of dealing with emotions, both are equally disastrous. First, is the people who believe all emotion are good and don't seem to put a cap on it. Although, their method is a lot better. It's what we call wearing your heart on your sleeve. In a sense, we should, because a heart that feels pain or hurts, is a heart that in general still works. However, crying all the time, will make you totally nonfunctional and most likely a wreck.

The other group are iron hearts, you might think of some caricature military colonel. This type of style of dealing with emotions is not to have emotions. Howbeit, having emotions or a heart keeps us human.

I hesitate to say balance, because people might think of Yin and Yang, which is a horrible idea. Just think about it, balancing good and evil? Do you really even know what that means? It means that if there is more good and not enough evil, you will help evil, just to bring balance.

However, I digress. We should not control our emotions to the extent that they never come out to play. Emotions need to be in our lives. Denying them, will affect our minds, and our chemical composition, which could lead to serious injury.

It's not really that we control or let loose our emotions, but rather that we control our emotions at certain times and let loose when the time is right. People have it right, when they do these things. People instincts, aren't bad, they just aren't refined.

Ideal ways of dealing with emotions, is to control them, capture the emotions, and wait for a good time to release them. The next step would be analyzing them. Why did I feel that way, and the next would be releasing it at the right time.

Getting stuck on one of these steps could be disastrous, but there is no right or wrong way to do things, just better ways. As mentioned before, controlling or loosing ones emotions can be dangerous, but analyzing and analyzing can also be damageous If you keep analyzing how you felt or why you did what, you will most likely go just a little bit insane.

Emotions are good, it's just that we have a responsibility and need wisdom on how to deal with them. Sometimes, we don't understand why we feel why we feel. This is why we cannot hide emotions, we have to check them, look at them so that we can understand ourselves. So that we can be better people but more steadier people too.